I Hate You - Don't Leave Me: Understanding the Borderline Personality Paperback – 7 December 2010

Hoje em dia quem sofre do transtorno junto dos seus familiares e amigos precisam desse tipo de informação, que em maior parte do livro é dada de maneira explicativa, clara e não-preconceituosa/generalizada. É explicado durante todo o livro que somente alguns dos sintomas possam fazer sentido e que não significa que isso faça dos que sofrem com ele, que utilizem o transtorno como desculpa, benefício próprio ou vitimismo.

helps to be informed.

Brought this book with high hopes after reading the reviews to try and help my family understand my illness. It has now been returned.This book focuses on the extremes of this illness, which I accept is sadly representative of many people experiencing this illness, but is not representative of all. The way the book is written implies that all individuals with this condition present with the extreme examples of the symptoms inherent with BPD. This is 100% untrue.This book reinforces stereotypes and stigma, and is misinformative for the lay person trying to learn more to help loved ones.The term "the borderline" is used to identify the sufferers and is completely impersonal. I understand that "Individuals with BPD" would be a nightmare to use throughout a book but a little more thought into how the BPD community is referred to would have been nice.If you want to learn more about this illness, there is much better information online.

I believe this was one of the first widely-published books about BPD, before it became as well-publicised as it is now. It was one of the first serious books I read on the subject and to say it was enlightening would be an understatement. If you have any doubts about your diagnosis/status, I think reading this book will help you decide. I certainly recognised myself very early on. I don't recall finding any particular self-help guidance but it was very useful to develop my understanding of symptoms and non-BPD perception of the condition. It's the second time I've bought it as I've lent my original copy out so many times I've now lost track of who has it. This is an important book in my reference library and if you want to know more about BPD (for whatever reason) I think you'll find the writer's style and use of specific case studies really accessible. Recommend highly. The seller shipped this quickly and it was well-packaged. Would buy again (and probably will....!)

The book is easy to digest and presents solid information... most of the time. A lot of the things here are outdated (what's with the constant referring to MySpace in modern contexts?) and often rely in a very old-school way of thinking (speaking of gender as a dichotomy, sometimes referring to different sexual orientations as sexual perversions, etc.). Despite that, the book does its best to present everything in a factual way. While it my fail sometimes, not everyone is born "woke" and it's only natural there will be instances of it being outdated.If you're someone with BPD, take into consideration that some of the language used may be objectifying and impersonal - making you seem more like an object than a person. However, I felt it did a great job of making the symptoms feel valid and real, instead of just "pretending" like many therapists.All in all, decent but nothing groundbreaking.